Ladies, You CAN Do It! You CAN Embrace Your Travel Fears!

Getting ready to hit the road, again!

The world is a big place, full of life and adventure. Sure, many things are easier for guys (like peeing), but don’t let that deter you. Ladies, you CAN do it! You CAN Embrace Your Travel Fears! You can explore the world. You can have adventures. You can pee! Too far?

“Of the 949 people currently registered on the Mongol Rally 2012, 119 of them at of the lady variety. Approximately 12% then – And they call the Mongol Rally a sausage fest!”
Rob (Mongol Rally Chief)

For me, adventure is a high like no other. I crave challenges. I pray for problems. I don’t want to have an adventure without any challenges, that would be boring and a waste of my money. I need challenges. Preferably ones that only land me in jail for about a day, as longer than a day would be annoying.

 

“Please know that I am aware of the hazards. I want to do it because I want to do it. Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail, their failure must be a challenge to others.”
Amelia Earhart

Leaving your life behind to travel the world is a scary decision. But will you be leaving your life behind? No, not really. Sure, you’ll be leaving friends and family behind, but not your life. Your life is, well, yours. It goes where you go. If you leave your life behind, then you’re not alive anymore. You’re dead. Death = Zero adventures, zero fun, zero life!

I think I’m getting too philosophical.

“There is nothing in this world that you cannot do if you put your mind to it.”

Sound familiar? It should! If this is the first time you’ve heard this statement, write it on a sticky note and posted it onto your bathroom mirror, or in your journal. There is nothing hokey about it. It’s not something your Mom tells you to make you feel better, but doesn’t believe in herself. It’s the cold hard truth, and it applies to everyone! “There is nothing in this world you cannot do if you put your mind to it.”

Or, think of it this way…

There is nothing that is IMPOSSIBLE because I’M POSSIBLE!

[if you’re considering a personal mantra, that should be it. I’m serious.]

Stop saying “Oh, I wish I could do ______”, and start saying “I AM going to do _____”.

Easier said than done. I know. Oh, I definitely know.

For years I dreamed of adventure, of exploration, of discovery. I surfed websites. I read magazines and books. I made lists. But I never followed through. Why?

  • It costs too much money.
  • I’m not the right weight, shape or size to do it.
  • I only have two weeks. I can’t really do anything in two weeks!
  • It’s too hard, boys have it easier.
  • I can’t leave my job. What would I do?

The most rewarding experiences come when you ignore the excuses and look forward to the challenges.

When I stopped worrying about money, or about what others thought, I became a thousand times happier. Friends that say you cannot do something, are not really your friends. Don’t listen to the negative influences. Look at what you want to do, what you want to carry out, and then find a way to do it. Make a plan!

Plan Ahead

I am not a planner. I believe in going with the flow and taking things are they come. That being said, I understand that not everyone thinks the same way. Plus, some adventures need a wee bit of planning. Pick your first adventure, mark the date on your calendar, and plan for it. Do some online research. Think of possible costs. Anticipate some of the challenges that may happen along the way, and how you can possibly handle those challenges.

Embrace the Fear

Yes, embrace it! It’s normal. It’s natural. Fear keeps you alert and aware. I have had full-blown panic attacks, complete with tears rolling down my cheeks.  I was scared as hell at the time, but when I did it, when I made it to the end, it was the best experience EVER!

Know the Difference between Good Fear and Bad Fear

There is a fine line between good fear and bad fear. Know yourself. Listen to your heart. Challenging yourself to do something that scares you is one thing, ignoring your intuition and making a bad choice is another.

Here is an example… Learning to ski scares the hell out of me, but I challenged myself and did it. Accepting a drink from a random guy at a random bar scared me, so I bought my own.

Know your boundaries and the difference between good fear and bad fear.

Ladies, You CAN Do It!

I am living proof. I’ve had ‘friends’ tell me I wasn’t fit enough to have adventures. I’ve gone from dreaming of living the life a certain way, to actually living it. I’ve ignored the negative feedback and embraced my fear. Do I still feel afraid? Hell yes! All the time. But I work through it. I find ways to push past my fear and remind myself that I CAN DO IT!

I don’t worry about whether a girl can do something or not. If I want to do it, I find a way to do it. Whether I succeed or fail is of no concern. What matters is that I try, and try and try.

Success and failure are very similar. I’ve failed. A lot. You’ll fail too. But it is in failure that we learn our greatest lessons. Failure builds character. Failure makes us stronger. The same can be said for success. When you embrace your fear, remember that ‘I’m Possible’, and succeed, your rewards are endless. Your joy is euphoric. Your addiction to challenge and adventure is just beginning.

Ladies, challenge yourself. Take a leap and step out of your comfort zone. You CAN do it. You CAN do anything you want to do!

About The Author

I'm a travel writer and photographer who specializes in bespoke travel experiences. I write about boutique, savvy and cultural travel. My writing has been featured in Outpost Magazine, Travel + Escape, and UP! Magazine.

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7 Responses

  1. Jenna

    So true! It’s so great to have women like you who are setting out on their own to travel, learn about the world, and have adventures to show other women that we need not follow anyone’s expectations. Good advice about good and bad fear, too. I have been so grateful for everything I have tried despite being scared, but I use a good dose of common sense, too.

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  2. TheEpicAdventurer

    LOVE this post.  And this in particular warms my heart (duh): “When I signed up for the Mongol Rally, I knew I was signing up for an male-dominated adventure. I didn’t care. It’s an epic adventure!”

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  3. Jill

    Love hearing these words of encouragement! We need more of this!

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  4. Vicky

    Brilliant article – thank you! I can’t believe your friends said you weren’t fit enough for adventure! You showed/show them 🙂

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